What have you done NOW?



Just wondering…

Most of us spend a lot of time alone in our heads. Sometimes we talk to ourselves. Sometimes it isn’t so much words in our head, as images, smells, sounds, and ideas swirling around. We run through checklists of things we need to remember. We rehash arguments or incidents in our head. Whether we’re in the shower, driving, waiting in the elevator, or running on the treadmill, we often have plenty of time to be thinking. But what are we thinking about?

For me, most of the time I’m thinking about things I have to do. Another good percentage of the time, I’m sitting in the pool of the past and thinking about things that have already gone by. It’s all well and good to make sure you’re on top of your lists, and it’s fantastic to reminisce… but what about enjoying what’s happening right now? Also, what about not worrying so much about repeating that list to myself 4 times, or trying to stick to good memories, rather than reliving the bad ones?

Altogether too often I find myself whirling around inside this habit. Once in a while, I remember to experience my food as I chew it; I actually feel the softness of the dog’s fur as I pet him; I stop thinking about something terrible that happened a few months ago and force myself into a happy memory. Sometimes I even remember to just let go altogether and play some music and just bop.

What do you do in your head? And have you ever thought about the thinking habits you’ve formed and which ones might need a tune up?

Friday Thoughts

My latest train of thought has been on the track of self, personality, and how we become us. Essentially, we all think of ourselves as unique. And we are… As we grow, develop, and learn – we learn to move, to walk, to talk. We learn mannerisms from our parents and family. We learn to new words and more language. Everything we absorb and then output again through action is essentially regurgitated, whether it’s language, or the way we cough. We are, essentially, made up of everyone and everything we have looked at, listened to, touched, or spent time with. So, while we are each unique – because we all understand and interpret things differently – we are essentially a giant puzzle made up of pieces from the world and people around us. What makes us different is the way we regurgitate what we absorb.

Wow – that sounded altogether too much like a story about vomit…

On a sidenote – I saw a license plate on my morning drive. H4D 53X. When I first glanced at it, I read “HAD SEX” and on my drive to work it made me chuckle.

Happy Friday!

Who cares what anyone thinks but you? Less judgement, more tolerance


I’ve been mulling this over in my head for a while. It’s been bubbling to the surface. In the recent past, I’ve noticed a lot that people care a LOT about what others think about them. So much so, that often people shape their decisions, their career paths, even their lives around what they perceive others to be thinking.

Why do we place so much value on what others think? I mean sure, people’s opinions matter. Often they are valid, and I think they are always worth listening to (at least). There may be no right or wrong, but we can always learn something from the thoughts and opinions of others.

Where I think we often go wrong is when we assume what others are thinking about us, or what they might think about us, and we make decisions based on that. But how are we to know what other people may think? And more importantly, does it matter?

Which brings me to what I was thinking, and what has pretty much been my credo for a long time (although I didn’t realize it until a few years ago). Who cares what other people think?! If what you want to do (or wear, or say) isn’t going to hurt anyone, and you want to do it… I say DO IT! If you want to cut your hair a different way, don’t wait for the approval of others, and don’t bail because you are worried what so-and-so will think. If you think that shirt looks awesome on you, don’t bother asking a friend how they think you look – wear it! If it puts a smile on your face… go for it.

Let’s be honest, you aren’t living your life for your friend Bill. The only one you’re living life for is YOU. So do what YOU want (within reason, and of course within the limits of the law 😉 ) Even if Bill thinks that shirt looks hideous on you, WHO CARES? If you’re comfortable, and you like that shirt – I say wear it. Passing judgement on others is what, in turn, makes us self conscious, and what pushes us to make decisions (often big life decisions) based on what other people think.

That’s another piece of the puzzle too… Who are we to judge? If people like eating raw eels for breakfast and they think it’s tasty.. let them! YOU don’t have to eat raw eels for breakfast! So why do you care if THEY do?! Likewise with other things. You don’t have to wear those pants that you find repulsive, so why do you care if someone else does? I say if it’s not blatantly offensive or discriminatory, people should do what makes them happy, and it’s really none of our business.

We live every day in this crazy cycle of passing judgement and worrying about others passing judgement on us. So why not break the cycle by not worrying about anyone else but yourself in this sense. It sounds selfish, but if you practice within reason – it makes sense!


The life we live inside our heads

When I think to myself, often I hear a voice in my head. Usually it is my own voice, unless it is advice from my mother, in her voice… Or a saying from someone close to me, in their voice. The mind is very powerful. The voices that I think in are always true to the source and sound exactly the way I remember hearing them. I also think in images, sounds, and “ideas” – things that are neither images, sounds, or anything else I can label.

Thoughts are constantly being expressed inside my head as conversations that I can hear, along with imagery (intertwined with other memory-senses). Not only that, but often when I read, there is a voice that I can hear in my head that is narrating the story as I read the words. My mind is like having an internal radio program or movie (or second-life as it were!) all the time.

I think this is pretty common for most people. They think and read in a voice inside their head, they see imagery, the remember smells and feelings. Now, some people hear other voices in their head, but that’s a differet conversation altogether.

What I’m getting at is this… I was wondering (in my internal voice) about people who are deaf from birth  from birth. They have never “heard” a voice… Ever! They have never heard a sound! So I was wondering what terms they thought in? My guess would be that they think in imagery, along with other senses that they possess. I’m honestly questioning here… They might think in visual words, like writing in the head. But babies don’t know how to write, so I wonder if those that are deaf think in visual thougts instead of spoken word? Or if it can even be explained? I even wonder if the mind has the capacity to create sounds, smells, sensations and other things that we have never felt/heard/smelled/seen before??

Alternately, I wonder if those that were born blind and have never seen anything think in an auditory way. How do they dream? Do they think in a voice?

I’m sure someone out there can answer my questions 🙂 and I don’t mean to offend anyone in asking: I ask innocently.

Do you know?

Dreams, meditation, the food-funk, and influences

dreamsWhen we dream, everything is so vivid and real. What capacity for detail our brains have! All of our senses seem to be able to be mimicked from within the mind. Our brains are the firmament for our reality. Whatever goes on in our heads is what we perceive to be real! Scary, interesting…

I’ve been struggling with meditation lately. It’s difficult for me to gain focus, and the monkey chatter keeps sneaking in. I try not to force thoughts out, but to welcome focus and calm. I think the point is to keep practicing. I’ve managed to find a time of day that works well for hunkering down, but I’m still not quite there yet.

Do you ever get sick of a certain food or foods? We tend to eat the same or similar foods all the time. There have been times where seem to be sick of just about every food I could imagine, and nothing will satisfy my craving. The only solution, I’ve found, is to try something completely new. That usually snaps me out of my food-funk.

I wonder how things around us affect our subconscious. If I’m designing a graphic for something and a certain song is playing – does it influence me? Does the song get my creative juices flowing? Do the lyrics plant ideas in my head that get translated to the image? I often wonder, but suspect that everything we sense affects every thought we have…

The furrow

This morning I was thinking about the furrow.

What furrow you ask? Well, the furrow in your brow! I have a theory on furrows…

The furrow!I have been practicing anti-furrow techniques and I think it’s working! Have you ever been driving to work, sitting eating your lunch, or just enjoying the day – and noticed your brow was furrowed for no apparent reason? This happens to me frequently. I don’t have any terrible thoughts running through my mind, and the sun isn’t making me squint my eyes… so why is my brow furrowed? Now, sometimes a furrow is created by negative feelings or experiences – but the unconscious furrow is a bit of a mystery. Whether the furrow is caused by negative events, or just appears mysteriously and without reason, I have noticed a few things by experimenting with my furrow.

When your brow is furrowed, I have a feeling that it automatically puts your body and mind into a mildly negative spin. You naturally begin going with the furrow-flow and thinking of negative things, feeling negative feelings, reliving bad memories. The furrow sucks you into its state – thus perpetuating its lifespan on your face. I think the furrow likes being there, so tries to create more negativity so that it can stay alive longer.

Also, when your brow is furrowed – other people respond to your body language. Whether consciously or subconsciously, people notice your furrow and are automatically alerted that something negative may be happening. Our instincts kick in – our brow furrows in response (again whether consciously or subconsciously, it doesn’t matter) and the domino effect ensues. Soon there is a stream of brow furrowing – and all this because of one unconscious furrow!

I have noted some other things as well. If I notice myself furrowing, whether for no apparent reason – or because something is causing me to be furrowed, when I consciously unfurrow my brow and relax my face muscles… I find that my mood changes almost instantly. Could this facial expression trigger negative thoughts and feelings in the mind? I think it does! And it becomes a snowball effect.

Consider this: You are having a fantastic day and something insignificant or subconscious causes your brow to furrow . This starts a chain of events that effects not only you, but anyone who can see your body language. With brow furrowed, you begin thinking about the negative incident you witnessed the other day, which causes you to worry about something vaguely related, leading you to an absolutely terrible mood… I could go on. Someone – a complete stranger! – sees your furrow and their furrow is triggered (again – this could be entirely subconscious!) and their own cycle of furrow-related events ensue.

In my experimentation – I have noticed the following: When I notice that my brow is furrowed and unfurrow it (whether I am smiling or just have a calm face), I consciously notice that not only does it put me in a better mood, but the others around me (strangers or not) seem to be gradually transported to a better mood as well. It’s simple – try it!

Perhaps the brow furrow triggers a certain area of your brain – or vice versa 😉 Either way, if you notice your brow furrowing – whether something terrible is happening, or you notice an unconscious furrow – relax your brow and take note of how it alters not only your calmness, but the calmness of others around you!

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